Developing your own image

No, not on a camera. Thank goodness, we haven't had to do that for years now. I remember back in University, having to develop my own pictures. It was actually kind of fun, but you needed to have your own darkroom, which was just a bit out of the realm of possibility for a college student. No I mean the image that you portray to the world. I forget how I look and how I come off towards other people and I think that is one of my biggest problems when meeting people, making friends and leaving a good impression. I'm tall, blonde, athletic and a bit shy, so I think that all rolled together makes people think that I'm very conceited. I'm not. I also don't have a sense of style so I buy whatever I like at that particular point in time - but it leaves me with too many clothes that don't match. Yesterday I was looking over pictures of me in the past few years and there are definitely things I like myself in and ones I don't. But one stood out for me. And it was a very casual picture of my in a white t-shirt, my hair back in pig tails, a beady type necklace and casual pants. It makes sense. I'm a very sporty person and I don't mean a sporty person that has no style, because I think that is what has gotten me into trouble in the first place. I was/am so against labelling people (she's sporty, therefore she doesn't wear makeup or dresses) that I went too much to the other side. But I'm not the flowerly girly type (to a certain extent) and if I have to pick a style - which I think I do, since I hate shopping and I have no place for my clothes, then I pick kind of a beach-bum sporty casual style. Jeans and a t-shirt, nice, clean, can even be stylish, but that's what I like. Now if I can just figure out the rest of my image. I think one thing I have to always remember in social situations is how I appear. I appear (the european in me) very self-confident, tall, pretty and peope will notice that before they notice how nice and friendly I am. Part of that is their fault and nothing I can do about it, but I think I really need to listen and pay attention to peope more. Rather than try and relate to them when they tell stories and tell my own, just listen, really listen and look. I so often forget that I've met someone or can't remember what they look like, or even their name and that's just wrong. So stop, look, listen ;) And get rid of some clothes!!