My husband's annoying habits

I try and see the bright side, really I do, but sometimes I just get overwhelmed by the 'dark' side. I think I've discovered today that my husband is a bit passive-aggressive. We have different taste in music - very different taste. He like british boy bands of the 90's (read: Oasis and everyone who sounds like them) and I think they sound like a bunch of whiny teenagers singing the same tune with different words thrown in here and there. Anyway, back to the point. Whenever we're having a tiff, or he's annoyed about something, I find (after about 15-30 minutes of listening to really annoying music) that he's gone and changed the Ipod to something he really likes and something he knows I really dislike. Sometimes it's heavy metal (which is all right, just not when you're trying to play with your two small children and it's banging in the background, turned UP!) but more often it's a band (Oasis, Wildhearts...) that are my worst. He's also got a playlist that he made up for when he's mad at me full of sarcastic tunes and again music I don't like. He doesn't say anything - it's his passive way of making him feel like he's won a point.

The whole reason he gets in these moods is that he's ***ing lazy. But he's only lazy when it comes to anything that has to do with something besides him. Like if he wanted to go play hockey or go fishing, well he'd have all that organized well ahead of time, a lunch packed and he'd be out the door ON TIME. When it comes to feeding the kids or cleaning or doing the dishes, well then he's as slow as mud, always late and complains all the while. His favorite is 'the house is such a tip, can't you put anything away?' when I've just done a load of laundry, fed the kids, vacuumed the floor, picked up all the toys, etc. etc. Once it's clean - doesn't mean it's going to stay clean. But by far the biggest annoyance is that I feel (and see and hear) that as much as possible he avoids doing anything with the kids. I have to complain about having them all the time (which I don't like complaining about, 'cause they're wonderful amazing kids and it's not like they're a foot fungus or something) and then he'll step up and do something. And then when he does, he's 'including' them in what he's doing, he's not actually doing something with them. No wonder they prefer their mom. Like for example yesterday. He went out in the yard with his daughter, put her in her swing, gave her a push and then proceeded to play soccer by himself. I looked out the window at one point and she wasn't even swinging anymore. I wanted to cry just then... here I thought is the most adorable little girl, happy and smiling and he's not even paying any attention to her. How pathetic.